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Post by Step Parents on Oct 21, 2009 8:31:11 GMT -5
I really need some help, my husband and I have physical/shared custody of his son my stepson, his mother lives in TX and we live in PA, the support order says she is to pay 127.00 per month and she doesn't, but she is allowed to see his 47 days a year in Texas and when he returns he is a mess, she doesn't want him but she doesn't want to let go...
My husband in the Military and we have spent 15k this yr alone in legal fees to keep this woman at bay with her abuse, what do we do , is there a good attorney who could take our case or help us take full custody of him and the abuse he gets from her and her other son, because we have all the documentation of abuse but PA wants to keep this deadbeat MOM in his life
they say it for the best but there not here when he returns or when she calls from time to time. SOMEONE HELP ME
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Post by Jim on Oct 21, 2009 19:04:28 GMT -5
I really need some help, my husband and I have physical/shared custody of his son my stepson, his mother lives in TX and we live in PA, the support order says she is to pay 127.00 per month and she doesn't, but she is allowed to see his 47 days a year in Texas and when he returns he is a mess, she doesn't want him but she doesn't want to let go... My husband in the Military and we have spent 15k this yr alone in legal fees to keep this woman at bay with her abuse, what do we do , is there a good attorney who could take our case or help us take full custody of him and the abuse he gets from her and her other son, because we have all the documentation of abuse but PA wants to keep this deadbeat MOM in his life they say it for the best but there not here when he returns or when she calls from time to time. SOMEONE HELP ME Yeah, the theives, I mean attorneys can eat up your life savings in a hurry. Child support and visitation are two seperate issues. Contact Child Support Enforcement to see what you can do about the mother not paying child support. 127.00 a month seems quite low, pathetic that she can't even pay that.... I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time with your step-son, these types of problems are only too common and very hard to find solutions too, especially since the biological parents live so far apart. If you have evidence of abuse you should do something about it for sure. I'm not familiar with any reasonable lawyers in your area but maybe some other members are. You need to learn the ropes (laws and procedures) as fast and thouroughly as you can so you keep up with this mess your in, You can never take anything for granted, especially an attorney if you hire one. If you can't prove abuse and that the mother is unfit, you'll have a very difficult time getting full custody. |
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Post by Debba99 on Oct 24, 2009 10:08:20 GMT -5
The first thing you must recognize is that in Family Law, these lawyers ARE scum bags. They will drag you through the system until ALL your money is gone. Note the first thing they ask you
is for a financial statement........the court too. WHY? What difference does it make how much money/assets you have? This is about custody of YOUR children. The lawyer and the court wants it because they want to strip you of every dime you have and will even tell to you to BORROW from friends, family, bank, sell assets...........they are SCUM. The lawyer will tell you all along how 'unique' your case is or 'bad luck'......sit in a family court for one day and WATCH. Fifteen minutes allotted for every case and often a come back date if you have a lawyer.....cha ching! The attorney in the black robe is in on the SCAM.....he/she is feeding the wallet of their colleague. The Judge will assign a GAL to 'protect' your child's best interest........cha ching! That GAL
is sided with the lawyers and their plot/plan for the winner/loser of the case. They don't give a rat's padoogie about your kids......it's all about the money! The Judge will court order a mental health evaluator...........his/her 'pal' that works for the plot/plan..........cha ching!
Advice, don't allow yourself to get into a 'custody battle'. If she
is fought for increased child support or forced to pay and obtains a scum bag lawyer...........you are DONE. The above scenerio will be implemented. If you can't proof she is an unfit mother, and that is very difficult, and the system won't want to IF you make more $$$$ than her...........
The system is designed to bleed the parents out of as much money/assets as possible.
Keep the case OUT of family court as best as you can. I would advise NOT pursuing the child support..............the amount is not worth the expense of a lawyer, the emotional trauma the courts' scams will have on you, and the adverse affect it will have on your children.
If you believe she will at some point fight you for custody.........then by all means................ATTACK now! while she is not in a position or willing to battle. But prepare yourself for the fight. Join as many groups as you can for support and templates for legal documents, get familiar with family law/case law. Your goal should be terminating her parental rights......start digging and gather as much evidence to prove this
irrefutably........video tapes of inappropriate conduct and have them transcribed; keep the tapes as your irrefutable evidence in case you need them for the media.
If there is enough money/assets of the parents and/or if the child is young enough...........CPS will get involved to legally kidnap the child from both parents.......research and join these groups to prevent CPS from fabricating evidence against you...........NEVER allow them into your home......if they are accompanied by the police.......make sure you video tape them in your home. HOld the camera and advise there are hidden cameras in every room and make sure there are! This will keep the Police and the CPS workers honest! The feds give up to $200K per year for every child taken into custody. Some states have a triple dipping system in the works: state and federal tax dollars and billing the parents for 24/7 WAREHOUSING your child in state run/affiliated facilities. If the child is young enough, they will implement Adoption.........there are taxdollar incentives for them as well.
Family Law/courts are the biggest SCAM on American families today.
Prepare yourself EARLY in the game.
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Post by Jim on Oct 24, 2009 16:06:58 GMT -5
Very well said Debba99!!!! Many would think that you were nuts by how you explained it, but I can say that you hit the nail on the head because I have been going through this crap for almost 7 years now. Now that I have no money left nor can afford an attorney anymore (life and assett vampire) the ex and her attorney are doing everything they can to either put me in jail or run me out of town......either way the final nail in the coffin so to speak is to really get me out of my daughters life once and for all.
These family courts and everyone involved are nothing but what exactly you have said....they target one parent (mostly fathers) and destroy destroy destroy (the father and everyone close to him!
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Post by Harrison on Oct 25, 2009 14:29:32 GMT -5
That's right on the money! I've tried to tell guys this information but they almost never believe the system is as corrupt as it is.
"Oh, well I have an attorney, he'll take care of it" are the famous last words spoke by the sucker.
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"She wouldn't do that!" Only because he hasn't checked his mail and found the TRO and papers defining how awful of a person he is.
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Post by Jim on Oct 26, 2009 15:53:46 GMT -5
Someday hopefully these narcissistic and pathetic things they call alienating/abusive parents will wake up and truely see how pathetic and inhuman they really are....
Maybe one day the system will break completely down and do a reversal and start protecting children and families.
Maybe someday the term "non-custodial father" will mean something different than deadbeat, criminal, and non-human.
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Post by scharlie on May 10, 2010 5:30:14 GMT -5
I think there is not a issue of child support main thing you need that stop visitation. File a Child Support Enforcement and also discuss with your lawyer that how court give you full custody.
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