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Post by Matt335 on Dec 3, 2009 16:35:03 GMT -5
Hello, I am a dad that was separated 5 years ago and divorced 2 years ago. I have 7 children ranging in ages from 8 to 25. I am talking to only 3 of them and trying every week to talk to and see the others. I am now married to another woman. She has no children. I started a blog a few years ago and just wanted to share that here. I admire the work done on this site and blogs by Jim. He is an inspiration to me personally and has helped me find the fight in me that is based on the love I have for my children and the disgust at the alienation. My blog address is rx5.blogspot.com Thanks for reading and thanks to Jim.
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Post by Jim on Dec 3, 2009 20:58:49 GMT -5
Hello, I am a dad that was separated 5 years ago and divorced 2 years ago. I have 7 children ranging in ages from 8 to 25. I am talking to only 3 of them and trying every week to talk to and see the others. I am now married to another woman. She has no children. I started a blog a few years ago and just wanted to share that here. I admire the work done on this site and blogs by Jim. He is an inspiration to me personally and has helped me find the fight in me that is based on the love I have for my children and the disgust at the alienation. My blog address is rx5.blogspot.com Thanks for reading and thanks to Jim. Thanks for those kind words Matt. After reading through your blog and about your plight I seriously wonder how you have maintained your sanity. Its stories like yours and others and not my personal situation that inspires me to do more. It was painful for me to read many of your postings. I hope things do get better for you and your children, hopefully they will grow wise and want to see you more often (make their own choices) and follow their own hearts in a positive way. Parental alienation is no easy abuse to heal from, thats for sure. I can not stand the thoughts of the millions of children and parents that have to endure such senseless abuse and sufferings. The majority of these injustices can actually be easily prevented and no one will do anything about it because of the power of the mighty dollar. Its really pathetic. Whats more interesting is that the pathetic people running the pathetic system are creating pathetic parents, which in turn creates in many cases, children to grow into pathetic adults and the cycle begins all over again. Thank God this doesn't happen in all cases, but it happens in many cases. Keep the faith Matt and just keep trucking forward! Even if you don't make much headway sometimes, at least you'll know you gave it your best shot and tomorrows a new day. We are only losers when we give up and stop trying. Take care and hang around on this forum, there's quite a few good people here and most of us are going through some of the same related crap. Talk at ya again soon.....
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Post by Matt335 on Dec 3, 2009 22:08:45 GMT -5
Thanks Jim. Money does determine heaps in my situation. The stories that come back about she claims I abuse them all through not giving them enough money. There's a definite cycle of wanting more money, demanding it, me not giving in, her further alienating me, me telling her to stop or I turn off the gravy train, then she listens..... then it starts all over again.
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Post by Jim on Dec 3, 2009 22:16:51 GMT -5
A vicious cycle....
Its amazing how money will influence evil actions and behaviors. Whats even more amazing is how that evil then expands to exploiting and using children as weapons to get more money and control......its really sickening.
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Post by goodhusbandfather on Feb 14, 2010 21:19:29 GMT -5
I was the child of a nasty divorce, and I remember when my father (who routinely beat me and choked me) took me to a counselor. I asked the counselor to please help me - my father was beating me, but the counselor just kept asking me to talk more about my mother. Later I found that the counselor was paid by my father and was in dealings with his attorney to find dirt on my mother. It sickens me that these types of tactics are employed, and I know today that it is illegal to ignore child abuse as a licensed counselor. At that age however, it was confusing and psychologically damaging. I was a pawn in a selfish war. Thankfully most men do not employ these tactics, but shamefully parents do use their children as pawns and they have no idea what they are doing. I have always had SERIOUS problems with authority since then, unable to trust...
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