Change Family Law

[JohnElder]

All of us that enter this site are looking for solutions; solutions to make divorce involving children less confrontational and fair to all the parties involved. (mother, father, and most of all the children)

My story is not much different than the others I've read on this site or others. My children were taken away from me more than half the time by their mother, the state laws of GA., and the judge I went before. Child support payments so outrageous what time I was given with my children sometimes had to be given up in order to work overtime and later had to take a second job. There are many stories out there of fathers losing their God given right as a parent to be with their children half the time. Makes no sense to me that any one has the right to say my kids , your kids are better off being with one parent or the other. I divorced my wife not my kids! This is something we as fathers should not have to fight for. Family Laws in most states are designed to be confrontational. Why? My guess the attorney's profit from it, more judges are needed, in other words people are making money from this. The only way for children to be with fathers as much as mothers is to change Family Law.

Most people that I've talked to agree that fathers are getting a raw deal in custody cases and that child support laws need to be radified as well. If we are to change things we need to ban together and pressure state legislaters to change Family Law to be less confrontational more fair to the chidren and fathers. Joint physical custody for all parents, equal net income between the parties, and equal asset allocation would do away for the need of an attorney in most divorces.

In short we need a plan to form groups, raise money to elect state officials who agree with our agenda so others in the future dont go thru what we have and still are going thru. Change Family Law!!

[Jim]

Jan 23, 2010 2:30:46 GMT -5 JohnElder said:

All of us that enter this site are looking for solutions; solutions to make divorce involving children less confrontational and fair to all the parties involved. (mother, father, and most of all the children)

My story is not much different than the others I've read on this site or others. My children were taken away from me more than half the time by their mother, the state laws of GA., and the judge I went before. Child support payments so outrageous what time I was given with my children sometimes had to be given up in order to work overtime and later had to take a second job. There are many stories out there of fathers losing their God given right as a parent to be with their children half the time. Makes no sense to me that any one has the right to say my kids , your kids are better off being with one parent or the other. I divorced my wife not my kids! This is something we as fathers should not have to fight for. Family Laws in most states are designed to be confrontational. Why? My guess the attorney's profit from it, more judges are needed, in other words people are making money from this. The only way for children to be with fathers as much as mothers is to change Family Law.

Most people that I've talked to agree that fathers are getting a raw deal in custody cases and that child support laws need to be radified as well. If we are to change things we need to ban together and pressure state legislaters to change Family Law to be less confrontational more fair to the chidren and fathers. Joint physical custody for all parents, equal net income between the parties, and equal asset allocation would do away for the need of an attorney in most divorces.

In short we need a plan to form groups, raise money to elect state officials who agree with our agenda so others in the future dont go thru what we have and still are going thru. Change Family Law!!

Thanks John and I agree very much with what your saying.

Many are hard at work trying to change laws, working also in many areas to change things in such a huge problematic system. It will definantly take many more years before most of this is turned around to actually benefit children more and not as it is now which is destroying parent child relationships, families, and society as a whole. Its quite sickening.

Before major change is accomplished there will be many many more children/parents harmed through these sickening processes in this system. This site is really a self help site to better the chances of someone that is about to or is going through these wicked processes in hopes that their outcome wont be as horrible as many. The staff here has personally worked with a few that without awareness and learning alot of code and procedure, how to write motions and responses, etc etc etc., their outcome surley would of turned out much worse. This site is also a type of prevention site too in a sense.

I've been a strong advocate to get people to avoid attorneys if possible and learn/educate themselves as much as possible and take control of their own cases; to do this stuff pro se. Attorneys are just middle men and most are in it just for the money and to prolong and throw wrenches in anything they can. They don't give a damn about our children and usually cause more harm than good in many cases.

The more we can help and save from total destruction in these family court areas the more that will be here tomorrow to fight and help others with us.

Everybody needs to be doing something and together things will eventually change when the profits are not coming in as they were to these criminals and their bogus and abusive system.

[scharlie]

Thanks john i am agree with you but it is not very easy to change any law, specially family law in the family law many draw back but when it is a big issue and need to do strong work.