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Post by jksawdad on Feb 21, 2012 11:20:50 GMT -5
I'm a Dad with two young children who is being forced to divorce a stay at home Mom who can be very nurturing and very abusive. I need a lawyer who can understand and communicate to the Judge and officers of the court(GAL) etc how my desire to have at minimum 50/50 custody is in the best interest of our children. I need referrals.
Thanks
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Post by Harrison on Feb 21, 2012 13:36:27 GMT -5
jk, It sounds like your in GA and that's Framed Fathers neck of the woods, I'm sure he'll help you asap. It sounds like your case is already well under way. A few things to keep in mind, DO NOT give her any reason to claim domestic violence (DV). You can scream it from the mountain top with over whelming proof, but if she points a finger (even a lie) your in trouble, it may cost your kids a dad. Keep a very detailed day to day journal, if she denies you ordered time with the kids DO NOT get mad and argue with her, document it. Be able to prove your whereabouts at all times. Keep receipts, phone records, credit and debit card receipts any proof. Stay away from bars or gambling halls and alike. If you smoke pot even medical they will use it against you. Learn or at least be familiar with state law and procedure this will help you keep your attorney honest (haha). You can't claim she is abusive and then ask for shared parenting, aim for sole custody and if you are lucky as hell you may get what you want. One thing to be aware of is, if the parents can agree on a parenting plan, they can save a lot of money and pain and there's not a DAMN thing the court can do about it, without violating nearly every law from the constitution on down.
There's a ton of info. on this site. What I gave you hear is a start and if you hire an attorney, remember they work for you, but you also have to give them the tools to do the job.
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Post by jksawdad on Feb 22, 2012 8:41:01 GMT -5
That makes sense. Abuse is kind of a binary thing. You either are or you aren't. Ultimately being alienated from my children by a Mom and Grandma that use my money to help them spoil the kids and make me a villain is the outcome I fear worst. I'm meeting with an attorney that is pricey but has been recommended by a Dad on another forum on dealing with people with abusive personalities. I'm going to pay the big bucks to hear her sales pitch.
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Post by Harrison on Feb 22, 2012 10:36:31 GMT -5
YOU ARE drivin' that nail home!!! and can already show that the ex is unwilling to co-parent. This is going to get messy and you should expect DV charges, mentally unstable claims and/or drug and alcoholism claims. A trick they use in DV, is to drag you trough the civil side of the matter first and get a restraining order (RO) against you. This is wrong!!! As stated the RO is a civil matter that requires a criminal CONVICTION to stand. So don't worry to much about a temp. RO it's just a game they play. Never go along to get a long with this tactic, no Alfred plea and for god sake never a deferred, ever!!!!! They are traps!!
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Post by Harrison on Feb 22, 2012 10:37:56 GMT -5
Let us know how it goes!!!
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Post by jksawdad on Feb 27, 2012 14:05:51 GMT -5
I'm kind of vacillating on an attorney. Without any evidence of negative outcomes I'm not sure how aggressive I should be. I have huge concerns about alienation but I don't want to alienate the judge.
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Post by Harrison on Feb 28, 2012 11:23:16 GMT -5
It's a matter of giving the comm. a legal path to go down that they seldom take. If you don't give it your all at the family court level and it goes wrong, at appeal/review by superior court they will not take evidence that should have been filed in the family court. Don't set yourself up to fail.
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Post by Harrison on Feb 28, 2012 11:32:09 GMT -5
Dr. Edward Kruk, I believe he is out of British columbia university and has studied PA for decades and can show PA is child abuse. You may want to look into what he has to say
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Post by Jim on Feb 29, 2012 7:15:02 GMT -5
The Family Therapy Center For New York & Georgia was founded by Dr. Monty Weinstein, a family therapist and expert witness who has devoted his career to assisting divorced parents and their children in custody disputes. He is an expert in domestic and partner abuse and a pioneer in family therapy. He has rendered testimony as an expert witness on custody, parental alienation, divorce and sex abuse throughout the United States.
Dr. Weinstein is the founder of "Fathers Rights Metro." His philosophy is that children should have accessibility to both parents.
He is the Director of the "Family Therapy Center of New York and Georgia" and is a clinical member of the "American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy." He also has a private practice where he helps his clients cope with divorce, separation, child custody and abuse.www.familyunity.com/
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