Post by nickt02ls on Mar 19, 2010 21:55:07 GMT -5
This is my first post, I read some others and seems like a lot from GA. I will try this anyway. I live in NY and became unemployed in November. I am in the very hard hit automotive industry. So I filed for a reduction in child support to match my now income of 400 a week unemployment. My support is 309 a week. So this pissed the ex off and a week later she files a BS violation of visitation saying I do not let the kids play their sports and do extra curricular activities. Back in June 2009 we had a verbal agreement by emails that they would not do these activities on my visitation weekends which is every other weekend Friday night to Sunday afternoon. Something I should mention is that we live 2 hours apart, and her using up my visitation time was getting out of hand. Now, to me I should be the one filing a violation of visitation since she takes it upon herself to put the kids in these activities, go on vacations ect. during my visitation time, and hands me a bill. SO I go to court in December and she has a lawyer who pulls some BS and gets it postponed, My ex also filed to have my petition to lower the support move to her county 2 hours from me and of course they grant it. So another 2 hour ride in Jan to have it again postponed, feb. same answer, March same answer. So now I have another court date in April and her and the lawyer;
1) filed to have me pay her lawyer fees,
2) have the kids keep doing their activities and basically whatever they want on my visitation time
3) Have my obligated amount due for extra curricular activities have no limit, right now it is set at 250 per kid per year
4) have the reduction request denied because the lawyer said I am showing a pattern, last year I was out of work for 5 weeks and had the child support reduced during that time
5) Trying to say that I am making money at a friends shop on weekends when I am there working on my car and families cars, there is no income.
I am getting attacked heavily and know the end result unless someone has some good advice.
This is putting a dampener on me finding a job for 1 thing, for another as bad as it sounds I am ready to give up visitation in the hopes that it is one less thing she can try to say I am violating even though I am not.
Right now my arrears is $1300.00, got a letter saying they are going to contact the credit agencies, I cant afford a lawyer, right now I have a public defender assigned to me, but If I get a job which I am trying hard to do they will yank that from me.
To me I see jail coming, and not a place I want to be, but without money, guess what. I am in a relationship with someone I have been living with for 3 years and I don't think this is fair to her either. If not for my feelings towards her I think I would have tried to leave the country, that seems the only way because as I mentioned I have no money, my credit cards are run up just trying to pay bills.
Any advice would be much appreciated. I also was wondering if there are any civil actions I could take against her for harassment or anything??? I am fed up, it is really getting to me the way I am getting attacked. All I wanted was is to get my kids every other weekend like I am supposed to and have my support modified to 25 percent of my now pay of 400 a week. I obviously cant pay 309 a week when making 400 a week.
I keep searching the internet only to keep getting disappointed with seeing the same result over and over, I am basically screwed!!!!!!!!!!
1) filed to have me pay her lawyer fees,
2) have the kids keep doing their activities and basically whatever they want on my visitation time
3) Have my obligated amount due for extra curricular activities have no limit, right now it is set at 250 per kid per year
4) have the reduction request denied because the lawyer said I am showing a pattern, last year I was out of work for 5 weeks and had the child support reduced during that time
5) Trying to say that I am making money at a friends shop on weekends when I am there working on my car and families cars, there is no income.
I am getting attacked heavily and know the end result unless someone has some good advice.
This is putting a dampener on me finding a job for 1 thing, for another as bad as it sounds I am ready to give up visitation in the hopes that it is one less thing she can try to say I am violating even though I am not.
Right now my arrears is $1300.00, got a letter saying they are going to contact the credit agencies, I cant afford a lawyer, right now I have a public defender assigned to me, but If I get a job which I am trying hard to do they will yank that from me.
To me I see jail coming, and not a place I want to be, but without money, guess what. I am in a relationship with someone I have been living with for 3 years and I don't think this is fair to her either. If not for my feelings towards her I think I would have tried to leave the country, that seems the only way because as I mentioned I have no money, my credit cards are run up just trying to pay bills.
Any advice would be much appreciated. I also was wondering if there are any civil actions I could take against her for harassment or anything??? I am fed up, it is really getting to me the way I am getting attacked. All I wanted was is to get my kids every other weekend like I am supposed to and have my support modified to 25 percent of my now pay of 400 a week. I obviously cant pay 309 a week when making 400 a week.
I keep searching the internet only to keep getting disappointed with seeing the same result over and over, I am basically screwed!!!!!!!!!!