Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 20, 2009 18:49:06 GMT -5
Hello, I am the father of two of the brightest lights in my life. They bring me complete joy and happiness when I am being their father. Unfortunately my wife and I are in the middle of a nasty custody dispute that I fear will only get worse as time goes on. Because of the current economic crisis that everyone is experiencing I have lost my job and cannot find steady work. Although I am trying my hardest and working every job I can find it is not enough. I am trying to secure the expertise of an attorney to help me be allowed visitation rights for my children. My whole world revolves around my children and is the reason why I must ask you- no humbly plead with you for your help You might ask yourself why you would help a stranger. Well because there are these two small children who I adore and love with all my heart at stake here. So for them I ask that you help me secure the efforts of an attorney. I am asking for any and all donations that you can spare! If you donate to my cause I will promise you that I will add you to the list and keep you apprised of my situation. I will give you weekly update and photos of the struggle that we will go through together. With this heart felt plead I ask you to donate anything you can. One dollar is graciously accepted. Thank you for your time and consideration to help me achieve my goal of being a loving father. So please free to click on the link below the picture of my darling and loving kids that i am trying to fight for.And PLEASE if you can make a pledge too help me fight for them in court. As if this post is not allow someone please let me know and i will remove it at once. Thanks Chris Embry   www.fundable.com/groupactions/groupaction.2009-04-15.0268513888 |
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Post by BertaSue on May 21, 2009 1:05:51 GMT -5
Chris,
Many of us can relate to your dilema. However, I firmly believe you will have better luck in your custody battle if you learn to represent yourself, rather than retain legal counsel. Your chances of getting people who have been screwed over attorneys to donate money for your cause and to help someone else get screwed over too, are probably pretty slim. You are better off to arm yourself with legal knowledge, do some court watching and learn how to represent yourself. If we can be of some assistance to you here, other than monitarily, we are happy to help. However, I do not wish to discourage anyone from donating to your cause, if it is what their heart is telling them to do.
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Post by Jim on May 21, 2009 5:47:19 GMT -5
Hi Chris, Your welcomed to post anything you want on this site. This site is for the members and for my, yours, and their children and families.
The only time that anything will ever be sensored or deleted is when members or a majority of members wish for something to be removed. Or if someone is getting totally out of control. As you have probably noticed, this site is quite calm and clean from disrespectfull and endangering content.
Your kids are beautiful and I am sorry you are going through what you are going through. Many of us here know what tradegy and frustration is and in no way wish it upon anyone else.
I have to tend to agree with BertaSue about the Lawyer thing. Wisdom and knowledge on your behalf is the best tool YOU can have in these types of situations, with or without an attorney. Both BertaSue, myself, and others on this forum and people that we know have been through alot with these courts and may be able to help you in certain areas within the process in which you are going through. We will do what we can yet at the end of the day it is you and you only that is responsible in how you use the information or proceed with your own case.
Its your life and your children and you are the only one that can really make a difference, you will always be the one that knows your case and situation the best even if you do retain an attorney. I'm a big advocate pertaining to this way of thinking because I have seen so many retain an attorney and step back thinking the attorney is their savior and everything will be "fixed" and now that they have an attorney nothing will go wrong......
This is so far from reality, especially with mostly fathers, including myself. So my advice is coming from someone that knows and has been there. I have made huge mistakes with trusting attorneys and taking things for granted that the attorney would do the right thing. Did I ever learn the hard way! Sadly alot of damage has been done to my case due to attorneys and my bad judgement. It is taking years to repair this damage and time lost with my daughter will never be replaced.
Unfortunatley this is the case with many parents......by time we learn the ropes and possibilities of the family court process, it is too late and the damage is done. Time is our enemy also in this system, by time many see the truth of the potentials of destruction in this system it takes years to repair damage and by then a precedent is set and Judges are leary to change orders, even if they are bad orders.
What state are you in?
If you have any questions, please send them our way.
PS: you should activate your account here through the email sent to your email address that you registered with so you can use all the options on this forum.
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Post by BertaSue on May 21, 2009 10:53:39 GMT -5
FRAMED,
Thanks for explaining how lawyers can make a case worse and cause divesting damage that sometimes can never be fixed! Great point. You asked the same question I was thinking.....what state do you live in, Chris?
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 21, 2009 20:52:21 GMT -5
I live in NY and their is a legal here that can help me get a divorce.But since the kids are in GA.They say i have to file for a divorce in ga,And because of the crap she is pulling to keep me from my kids.I have not choose to try to raise funds to get a lawyer....
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Post by Jim on May 21, 2009 21:30:08 GMT -5
I'm a bit confused.....your not even divorced and she took the kids out of state and seperated from you?  ? Its hard to speculate on a situation like this without the complete documented case file. Something doesnt seem right about it from the get go......why are your kids in GA? Who left who? |
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 21, 2009 21:36:37 GMT -5
No i moved to ny after i was offer a job here.And that time she and i was on a talking terms.She then stop letting me speak to them on June 13 2008,Cause i ask her why was our son telling me that her current BF said he could not spend the night with me.So after that she DC her cell phone and all.ANd then nightmare has begin...Now the BF kick her to the curb and all,SO now i am lost on were they are.I was told by him that she now lives with her momma and when i myspace her to ask if they was there.She read it and never reply
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Post by Jim on May 21, 2009 21:41:18 GMT -5
Sounds like a mess, you are letting too much time pass without doing anything in my opinion. But I don't know the whole story either.
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 22, 2009 21:18:30 GMT -5
Well here is the whole story.Wife left me on June 2 2008,June 5 she gets a Ro and has the kids took away from me,June 21 2008 she is awarded RO for a year and i get 1 and third weekend and 2 weeks for summer and we swap every other year on t he hoildays.Jan 13 2008 i explain to her i was moving to ny and she and i was in agreement.She ask i call them ever day and i did and we talked.June 13 2008,My son calls me cause he was aware i was coming to get them for summer visit.Son states to me that his other daddy.Says he cannot spent the night.I speak to my wife to ask why did he say that and she went all loco.I explain to wife so are son is lying to me and u and she then i said that are is trying to play side,I then well i have a court order to get them for 2 weeks and is he and she thinks they can stop me,I guess we go to court and watch what happens.And if she thinks i am scare of her man she gotta be crazy and all.She then hangs up and then DC her phone and stop letting me speak to them .So i myspace her with this message several time asking to speak to the kids.She chooses too not let me speak to them....So jan of this year i am planning on coming down and she chooses to move and all.So i hope this
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Post by Jim on May 23, 2009 9:52:26 GMT -5
Well here is the whole story.Wife left me on June 2 2008,June 5 she gets a Ro and has the kids took away from me,June 21 2008 she is awarded RO for a year and i get 1 and third weekend and 2 weeks for summer and we swap every other year on t he hoildays.Jan 13 2008 i explain to her i was moving to ny and she and i was in agreement.She ask i call them ever day and i did and we talked.June 13 2008,My son calls me cause he was aware i was coming to get them for summer visit.Son states to me that his other daddy.Says he cannot spent the night.I speak to my wife to ask why did he say that and she went all loco.I explain to wife so are son is lying to me and u and she then i said that are is trying to play side,I then well i have a court order to get them for 2 weeks and is he and she thinks they can stop me,I guess we go to court and watch what happens.And if she thinks i am scare of her man she gotta be crazy and all.She then hangs up and then DC her phone and stop letting me speak to them .So i myspace her with this message several time asking to speak to the kids.She chooses too not let me speak to them....So jan of this year i am planning on coming down and she chooses to move and all.So i hope this Sounds like you have a major mess on your hands to deal with, what she is doing by withholding the children from you being able to see them is wrong. I would sugest that you study everything you can and do everything you can to get some form of visitation working. I sense you will have to definantly go through the court system and it won't be easy to get her to abide and follow orders. |
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 23, 2009 13:40:12 GMT -5
I do not think the WORD MAJOR MESS IS THE RIGHT WORD FOR THIS ISSUE.as for the courts there is nothing i can do to make them see she is neglecting OUR kids,That is why i am trying to raise the funds for a lawyer,.I think i found one who is willing to take it to her and all
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Post by Jim on May 23, 2009 13:48:40 GMT -5
I wish you luck, I know what your going through isnt easy and frustrating to say the least.
I still would suggest learning all you can even with having a lawyer.
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Post by Jim on May 23, 2009 13:58:38 GMT -5
Also I would suggest that you get hooked up with an active and effective parental rights group physically close to you that you can work with and for moral and emotional support. Every bit helps when your going through this injustice system.
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 23, 2009 17:15:18 GMT -5
I plan on too,as for the law part.I am learning what i can.However your site has been a great site cause u have alot links for me too read.DO u happen to have any personal stories to pass along with a court and all
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Post by TheFilez on Jun 3, 2009 23:52:16 GMT -5
It’s really difficult.
I had an injunction order on me in Florida. It was absolutely BS; I swear to God I did absolutely nothing to my wife. I am a great father and a great husband, at least I was. My name has been defamed through-out this little city. First my name is shown to the public as a domestic violence violator. It’s extremely depressing. My wife tried to say I was abusive to the kids also, the judge didn’t believe it so he gave me my visitations without needing supervision. Of course he did, I know he didn’t totally believe what she was saying, but “just in case” he leaned on her side. Battering classes came next, the Feminatzi says she actually trains the judge on how to deal with domestic violence in the court room and she tells me that the judge “leans on the side of the woman, just in case”. She also says she spoke with the judge when I told her I’m going to contest the injunction. She tells the judge in a meeting and he tells her that there is no way that he will reverse the injunction. Every lawyer in Florida tells me the same thing that he’s not going to reverse the injunction. My wife still keeps lying to the kids and to people in the area and to friends and family. It’s wrong, everyone is wrong. I’m still going to court and I have no money, I keep trying to barrow money from family but none of us have real money. I’m not from Florida, I don’t have friends. My friends were supposed to be my wife and kids. My baby girl doesn’t recognize me when I pick her up twice per month. I didn’t sign Divorce papers so that I could get a court order for the Children’s of Litem and for my wife to have a psychological evaluation. I moved six times in six months, how can a devoted husband and father be treated this way? This is how.
• My ignorance to the court system. No they are not fair and they’ll get away with violating your civil rights. They’re guided by VAWA to do so.
• The ignorance of lawyers. Don’t believe them when they say they can help you, educate yourself as well as you can, that is the most important thing to remember. Then lead the lawyer in your direction. Research your lawyer also.
• Need for knowledge. With your new knowledge, a positive and respectful but clear and firm demeanor (I know it’s hard to do), talk to everyone and let them know what’s going on. Most people don’t listen to you as a man, but sometimes it just takes a couple of important people.
• Justice is joke; the laws keep changing and the people, who were arrested by those laws yesterday and are currently in jail today, would not be arrested by those laws today. Or vice versa.
• $ I have none. Justice is made for people with money and for liars. Everyone else just wait in line to be screwed by our laws and do nothing about it.
I have an odd combination of circumstances that are making it tougher.
• Mental disease; my wife has Undiagnosed Bipolar Disorder; they say so what if she has it. They don’t know what it means; Violence, untruthfulness, delusional, untruthfulness. The court system is ignorant to mental disease in the court room.
• Immigration; My wife is not illegal, but because of her mental disorder it made her make unwise decisions in the past as well as now, that effected her to have her immigration papers easily. She ruined my name because she wanted to do it easier and not the right way.
• VAWA the Violence Against Woman’s Act. Are these woman or kids? They treat the woman as if they are not smart enough to make their own decisions. This law was introduced to Biden and the Clintons by Feminatzists. Who is one of the most famous ones is Hillary.
That’s all I have time to write right now. Bye FilesX4@Yahoo.com
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