Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 1, 2009 19:43:56 GMT -5
I am a father of 2 kids that live in GA.In jan 13 of 07,I spoke to my sep wife and inform her i was offer a job in ny and was going to take it.We work out a verbally agreement that i would call everyday and come down in the summer to visit.well since june 13 2008,She choose to not honor a temp court order that says i am allowed a mth visit for summer break,She has then choosing to not let me speak to them at all...She and her bf will not let me speak to them,He and her have stated they will not allow me to see them cause i will not hurt them again.
So I'm posting this here to ask if u happen to know any advice that assist father who lives out of state and my sep wife lives in ga and will not allow them to speak to them.I am THEIR *FATHER* who does not want to take custody of our kids,But be a part of their lives and help raise them and support them as *EVERY* make father wants too do.My wife in ga will not allow me to see them are even speak to them.She is claiming they do not wanna speak to me cause i have hurt them
*Which is all false lies.... *
I am currently unemployed because of a false charge that she has against me.I have no job and have no funds for a lawyer.And because of this i am behind in CS support payments to the current amount of 2700 dollars.So maybe anyone out there can assist me in what to do to get some sort of custody work out in GA
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Post by VisitorDad on May 2, 2009 10:59:26 GMT -5
You need to get directly involved and proactive beyond your wildest dreams, no one else can do it for you.
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 2, 2009 11:07:14 GMT -5
I am but however when i called the police cause she is harassing me are my gf.They do not do shit.So that why i was thinking a lawyer,because this woman thinks she can get away with everything
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Post by VisitorDad on May 2, 2009 11:57:53 GMT -5
The police will not help you as they dislike being put in the middle of these domestic situations in the first place. File charges against her if you have the evidence for a sure prosecution. Fight fire with fire.
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 2, 2009 13:09:51 GMT -5
Oh i tried getting that fair and then i get one step in the door and get told get teh paperwork and pay the court cost and then the judge would look at the paperwork and there is a 50 chance i would get a court date within 30 days are it could be longer.Stuff like that makes me so mad.
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Post by Jim on May 4, 2009 15:26:03 GMT -5
Yeah, its never fair......but watch what happens when the mother tries to file something and how quick she gets a court date. They dont even get held accountable for filing false allegations or harming the father/child relationship. There needs to be changes in laws that make it a crime when someone files false allegations and frivilous and harrassing litigation.
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 4, 2009 21:40:19 GMT -5
Yea,i agree framed.I mean hell if WE was to pull anything like this.We would be in jail are forced to have supervise visit and so and so on
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Post by VisitorDad on May 8, 2009 18:32:56 GMT -5
It is a crime to harass, filing frivilous litigation, filing false allegations etc. Its the "criminal judges" who do not hold these "criminal false accusers" accountable. There's plenty of good laws on the books, it's another thing to get these assholes to enforce them.
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Post by Jim on May 9, 2009 7:31:05 GMT -5
It is a crime to harass, filing frivilous litigation, filing false allegations etc. Its the "criminal judges" who do not hold these "criminal false accusers" accountable. There's plenty of good laws on the books, it's another thing to get these assholes to enforce them. Good point, changing and creating better laws is one thing, but it does no good if the Judges do not enforce the ones we already have or the ones we need.....
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Post by IrrateGrandma on May 26, 2009 12:10:59 GMT -5
Hi
If you truly have done nothing wrong , she has no right to alienate the children from you. I tried replying to another of your posts but i don't think it went through.
You need to get the support of as many family members behind you in your fight to see the children. Get as many as you can to write letters of character reference in your behalf. Get as many as you can to go to court with you. Judges need to see that you have a strong family support behind you.
It is time that women that pull these kind of things are stopped
One more thing to think about if you are truly interested in being in your children's lives is to get a job where your children are located. IMO there should be laws against either parent from just up and moving and having the right to just take the children wherever they please with no regards to the relationship at stake with the other parent.
All The Best To You...Get Educated!
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Post by BertaSue on May 26, 2009 12:59:09 GMT -5
Chris,
You are getting really good advice here. If you would like our team to take a look at your case, email ALL your *filed* court documents to ourfamilyrights@gmail.com.
Regardless of whether or not you have an attorney, you need to arm yourself with legal knowledge. You need to become familiar with your state's statutes, court rules, family rules, local court rules and read case law. That's how you learn. People who do not know, hire an attorney thinking they are the "fix-all", but more people get screwed over by attorney's than are actually helped. If you learn your rights and the law, you can challenge any lawyer trying to feed you a bunch of bull crap. And no, they don't like it when you question them, but afterall, you are paying them....they work for you, not the over way around. You pay them to give you legal advice but sometimes they do not act in your best interest. That's just the facts of it.
Are your children school age? If so, do you know what school(s) they attend? Have you tried to obtain their school records? If you need help with this, let me know and I can help you.
You will get no where playing the "victim". You have to make your fight about the children and family. The real "victims" are the children for they have no one to see to their best interest accept their parents. And when one parent, usually the custodial parent, decides NOT to act in their child's best interest, instead turning them against their other parent, it won't be until after the child's grown that they realize how screwed up they are.
What I can't fathum is how the family courts play a major role in the destruction of family, when they have the power to stop this, and don't. If our family court judges were more like, Judge Judy and Cristina's Perez, the children would be better off. I mean, the children don't realize how much they were harmed until they're grown.
There will be times you ask yourself, "When will this ever end?" My answer, "It will end, when you give up and that is what the other party is hoping you will do." So be strong. There is help for you here, if you're willing to cooperate, learn and represent yourself.
Our fight is about children and their right to have a relationship with all their family; aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, sisters, brothers, etc. Give our children a voice and never give up the fight for the children!
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Chrem88
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Post by Chrem88 on May 26, 2009 16:49:34 GMT -5
Hi If you truly have done nothing wrong , she has no right to alienate the children from you. I tried replying to another of your posts but i don't think it went through. You need to get the support of as many family members behind you in your fight to see the children. Get as many as you can to write letters of character reference in your behalf. Get as many as you can to go to court with you. Judges need to see that you have a strong family support behind you. It is time that women that pull these kind of things are stopped One more thing to think about if you are truly interested in being in your children's lives is to get a job where your children are located. IMO there should be laws against either parent from just up and moving and having the right to just take the children wherever they please with no regards to the relationship at stake with the other parent. All The Best To You...Get Educated! I have people who is willing to write the letter and all.They are great people who have seen me with my kids and alll Can say that i am a great father.As for me getting a job were they are loc,It was my choose to do.However my family is broke and if i move back down to GA,I will be homeless and all my friends are living with there parents.So right that is the only hold up that i am having and that She is keeping me from them cause i want to be involved in there lifes and she is not wanting that.She has stated that all she wants is me to pay Child Support and that is all.And as long as she is happy and there are.That is all that i SHOULD CARE ABOUT.And that is not me.We both had these kids and that is ALL I CARE FOR.Is that they HAVE ACCESS TO BOTH PARENTS and not just one.
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Post by Chrem88 on May 26, 2009 16:59:19 GMT -5
Chris,
You are getting really good advice here. If you would like our team to take a look at your case, email ALL your *filed* court documents to ourfamilyrights@gmail.com.
Regardless of whether or not you have an attorney, you need to arm yourself with legal knowledge. You need to become familiar with your state's statutes, court rules, family rules, local court rules and read case law. That's how you learn. People who do not know, hire an attorney thinking they are the "fix-all", but more people get screwed over by attorney's than are actually helped. If you learn your rights and the law, you can challenge any lawyer trying to feed you a bunch of bull crap. And no, they don't like it when you question them, but afterall, you are paying them....they work for you, not the over way around. You pay them to give you legal advice but sometimes they do not act in your best interest. That's just the facts of it.
Are your children school age? If so, do you know what school(s) they attend? Have you tried to obtain their school records? If you need help with this, let me know and I can help you. [glow=red,2,300] I tried to gain access to them,And ga school ares saying cause i am not on the school contact card they cannot allow me access to it.When i state to them i can show proof of that i am the BIO dad and copy of BC and all.They state they cannot allow me access.Even when sending the formal request under FERPA Act they will not comply.EVEN have tried contact the family compliance Office for Washington DC Dept OF Ed.They tell me i have to do it all over again and all[/glow]
You will get no where playing the "victim". You have to make your fight about the children and family. The real "victims" are the children for they have no one to see to their best interest accept their parents. And when one parent, usually the custodial parent, decides NOT to act in their child's best interest, instead turning them against their other parent, it won't be until after the child's grown that they realize how screwed up they are.
What I can't fathum is how the family courts play a major role in the destruction of family, when they have the power to stop this, and don't. If our family court judges were more like, Judge Judy and Cristina's Perez, the children would be better off. I mean, the children don't realize how much they were harmed until they're grown.
There will be times you ask yourself, "When will this ever end?" My answer, "It will end, when you give up and that is what the other party is hoping you will do." So be strong. There is help for you here, if you're willing to cooperate, learn and represent yourself.
Our fight is about children and their right to have a relationship with all their family; aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, sisters, brothers, etc. Give our children a voice and never give up the fight for the children! Are your children school age? If so, do you know what school(s) they attend? Have you tried to obtain their school records? If you need help with this, let me know and I can help you. [glow=red,2,300] I tried to gain access to them,And ga school ares saying cause i am not on the school contact card they cannot allow me access to it.When i state to them i can show proof of that i am the BIO dad and copy of BC and all.They state they cannot allow me access.Even when sending the formal request under FERPA Act they will not comply.EVEN have tried contact the family compliance Office for Washington DC Dept OF Ed.They tell me i have to do it all over again and all[/glow] You are getting really good advice here. If you would like our team to take a look at your case, email ALL your *filed* court documents to ourfamilyrights@gmail.com. I would love to email what i have but i do not have a scanner and somehow when i moved her and my luggage was lost so did the Temp custody order and all.And i do not have the money to get copy and my GF and i live off 20 a week after bills are paid that we cannot even afford to try to get copy's of them I also sent u a friend on Yahoo iM
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Post by Jim on May 26, 2009 17:10:47 GMT -5
I hear this shit so often it is fricking making me sick reading about it again, I am sorry Chris that your wife thinks she is GOD and can just cut you out of their lives like she has.......oh, of course except for the money part!
Society and the family court and related systems have conditioned women/mothers over the years to this mentality and by george are they taking advatage of it. Call me bias but I dont give a damn, it is what it is and anyone that cant see it is blind or just ignoring what is happening.
Your fight is going to be one that I can garentee you will not be over anytime soon. Your wife is a perfect example of a conditioned mother who has some educated sense of what she can possibly get away with, and that is running you into the ground until you abide by her way or only her way. Her way or the fricken hiway.......
Well, The fight is on and if you got the will power and the dedication to your children you can never give in or give up. You give in to her demands the slightest bit she will take them away one pick at a time. You must get your marbles in one basket and lay a foundation for a strategic battle to get orders on paper that benefit you and your children and then also prepare to fight her in court because she is not abiding by these orders.
By the sounds of it, she will never cooperate or follow orders. I imagine she has already got legal advice and also knows the illegal manuvers she can get away with too.
BertaSue means it if she is offering her help, we will do what we can if there is an absolute effort on your part too.......... as I said before, it is you and only you that will make the ultimate different due to your determination and willing to fight. All we can do is guide you into making some good choices, educate you on possibilitys, and help lay a strategy, the rest is up to you. I personally, especially lately have seen more success through people like you learning the ropes and jumping in head first with knowledge and determination rather than the pathetic whining parents with big attorneys and big bank accounts.
Its all a matter of out playing your opponet and having the right judge at the right time..........
Pretty sick how this system plays games with peoples lives, childrens lives.....................
Your fight will be a difficult one considering your dealing with living in another state. I am in GA though and have leanerned alot over the last 6 or 7 years being slammed into this crap head first and still trying to manuever through it daily.......
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Post by IrrateGrandma on May 26, 2009 17:16:57 GMT -5
I really think that you should consider relocating back to where your children are. You may have to get 2 jobs to do it. Your children have the right to be with you at least as much time as they spend with her. Are your parents alive? Can you live with them until you get on your feet financially a little better? Sometimes judges favor father's with a supportive family behind the father. If you want to parent you need establish yourself as a responsible parent. Get involved. I don't know how much a court is going to think you are involved if you live in different states. Establish yourself as a reliable, dependable parent. If your children are young or about to be attending school, try to volunteer whenever possible, i can't stress it enough! Document the times and activities you involve yourself in with your children. Actually DOCUMENT EVERY THING!! Dates etc... notes on when she refuses you access. Request them if you want them....let her deny you....then document.
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